Designing the lifestyle we want to live by is just as important as building our career. It directly contributes to our personal fulfilment and it defines our habits from the time we wake up throughout the whole day. Don’t settle for being ordinary! Quit old routines and live the life you always dreamed about!
Build it around a mission
We all seek our quests in life. Something that is bigger than us, something which gives a meaning to every single thing we do. It is more than our list of resolutions and our five-year goals in our careers: It is a purpose that pushes us forward and guides us in the right direction when we are in doubt and when we are making decisions.
If you haven’t found it yet, that’s fine – just keep looking! Gordon Bowker founded Starbucks at the age of 51 and Ariana Huffington started the Huffington Post when she was 54, and both businesses had become great successes driven by their personal missions.
“A ship in harbor is safe— but that is not what ships are built for.” — John A. Shedd
If you have a purpose that makes you jump out of bed every morning then everything you do in life, even your smallest daily habits will be a product of that belief. Sometimes, you discover that you had been chasing a mission which was not right for you or which was not big enough, and it is completely okay to change directions as long as you feel that you are true to yourself.
Question the rules around you
Most of the things we do day by day on autopilot mode are the same systems we use since our early age. The way we eat, the way we form sentences, even our morning and bedtime rituals… Some of these unsaid rules are taken from our family, from school or the communities that had shaped our thinking at a young age. Maybe we picked them up later and didn’t realize that we got addicted to them. The main problem with this fact is that some of these principles might be fundamentally wrong and we stop questioning them because we don’t even realize we follow them. It just happens automatically.
It is time to get a little analytic over the habits that come naturally to you in your everyday life. Perhaps, you need to stop for a minute after reaching home and instead of reaching for your laptop immediately you could say a few kind words to your family or just sit down with your favorite beverage and reflect on your day. Maybe you should stop being humble when you receive a compliment and just say thank you or change the questions you ask from your friends when you meet them for a coffee. These habits might seem minuscule but if you look at the big picture, we are the direct outcome of the smallest pieces of our lives.
If you are interested in this topic and you are ready for a greater transformation you can read The Code of the Extraordinary Mind by Vishen Lakhiani, which will help you redesign your life entirely.
Don’t forget who is in charge
Even if we don’t say it out loud, we often we feel that we need to ask for permission or consider other people’s requirements when we change the person we had always been. Change might be scary and it might seem too hard but when you get there, your new life will seem just as natural as the previous one. Don’t worry about people leaving you or turning against you: the ones who really matter will support you and encourage you throughout your journey.
You are the only person who can set the rules in your life, and challenging others around you will be beneficial for them too, even if they don’t realize it just yet. It is not selfish to do what is best for you and what makes you feel satisfied and fulfilled in life! You can only perform your best and give your contribution to the business you build or the cause you stand up for if you are your best and happiest self.
So get ready to question every rule in your life, seek your quest, and make those small changes that will make all the difference!